Sunday, 25 October 2009

• My Unconvential Thoughts On Weddings

  I just read a post on Lovelyish called "6 Wedding Traditions I Wish Would Disappear."  It involved the bouquet and garter tosses, the placement of the garter on the bouquet-catcher, the favors, guestbook, silly songs, and drunken toasts.

  Many people agreed and many did not.

  For the most part I didn't. I'm not much for tradition as far as weddings go but I would want a wedding to be as much FUN as possible- not just a formal congratulatory event.

  Bouquet toss? Lots of fun! A bunch of girls in formal clothes jumping over each other to catch flowers! It's so ridiculous, it's funny. Garter toss? Same deal, but grown men seeking out married women's lingerie like high school boys. And if they do have to place the garter on the bouquet-catcher, the awkwardness could be very amusing.... but I'm fine with leaving that out.

  I'm shocked that anyone would want to leave out stuff like the cha-cha slide, chicken dance, or macarena though! That's one of the best parts! Slow-dancing is nice, but the former dances are FUN. I refuse to be expected to act grown-up. Why shouldn't grown-ups enjoy stuff they enjoyed as a child? Because society says so? It's a wedding, for goodness' sake. It should be a happy event, not something outlined to be a specific way.

  I'm thinking that, in order to be cost-effective, the best idea is to use someone's iPod or computer and put on a BUNCH of songs the bride, groom, and some close family/friends want on there, and set it on shuffle. I'd have all kinds of ridiculous crap on there, certainly.... Weird Al, Wicked, Disney songs... and of course the above mentioned silly songs. :) See people try to dance to all of that. XD

  I do understand that they thought wedding favors, which many people don't care about, should be left out of the budget. They can cost an awful lot. But if you just buy a couple of big value packs of Hershey's kisses (like one of the commenters did) instead of high-grade chocolate, it would cost much less and most likely be better appreciated- and if people leave them, well, more for you! :D

  Guestbooks make sense as being pointless unless they're scrapbook or yearbook style- not just for names, but for memories and messages. XD

  And to cure drunken toasts, leave out the alcohol or tell any toasters ahead of time not to drink. :)

  The wedding cake smashing-in-face thing doesn't bother me so much. I would be totally floored if that happened to me. I guess it could mess up the dress a bit but cake is kinda sticky and if you get it fast enough, it won't fall off your face onto your dress/tux.

  On to some more of my bizarre takes on wedding ideas...

  Bachelorette and bachelor parties should be fun too. Weird Al Yankovic went paintballing. I want to play lasertag! Or toilet paper the houses of all the male wedding guests! Or something else EXCITING and FUN. I don't understand the whole stripper thing- you're swearing yourself to someone else, you are already engaged, so I really don't think it counts as a "last days of freedom" sort of thing. If you want freedom you shouldn't get married- and it's not really freedom because if you cheat while engaged, it's still cheating, right?

  I don't want to wear makeup if I can help it. If I am forced to, maybe a little bit, but I really don't like makeup.

  Bridezilla=bad. What's the point? Who really cares what kinds of flowers there are or what color tablecloths there are or whether you serve red meat or white meat? It's one day, and if you get too concerned over those details, then they day will DEFINITELY not be perfect, because if anything goes wrong, you will be upset. Be happy with simple, meaningful things, and things people will really care about.

  I think when I get married I'll try to have my mommy make the food, and I'll help too. Spaghetti, sauce, bread, veggies, and a big tub of mashed potatoes. :D Or something like that. Easy to make and still delicious. :)

  I am going to take off my shoes ASAP because heels=pain. Or just wear flats. Yaaaay.

  I'm starting to recognize the fact that my mother will hate helping me with my wedding, hahaha... but then, her mother pretty much planned hers and that annoyed her, so she'll let me do this stuff.

  Then again... all this could be totally scrapped if my fiance were to want it differently. Most important thing- the groom should be involved in the planning. It should not just be about the bride- it is not only the bride's big day! Unfortunately it has been made that way. Well down with onesidedness! Let the man help! He might hate it, actually, but his opinion should certainly be asked on everything.

  Well, I'm done with my rant- for now. I don't really plan on getting married anytime soon but these are my thoughts as of now. :)

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